Writing Original And Personal Wedding Vows
To some people, the thought of writing their own wedding vows and reading them aloud in front of all their friends and family is one of the best ways to express your love on the big day while the thought makes others tremble. But just about anyone can see the beauty in writing your own wedding vows and so if this is something that is important to you or your fiancé, you need to take the time to consider what is most important when writing your own vows – writing ones that are personal and unique to you and your betrothed. The whole point of writing your own vows is to show your bride or groom how much you love them and how important this day, and the days to follow, is to you. So whether you don’t have a clue how to start or having a mind running with ideas, here are 10 steps to writing original and personal wedding vows.
1. Talk to your Fiancé
You’ve probably already come to agreement to write the vows but talk to each other about how long you want the vows to be so that one’s not running on and on while one only has a few sentences to share. Another idea you both might want to consider is writing joint vows, where you will write one set of vows for each of you to say.
2. Reminisce
It’s true that this day is one for looking to the future but there’s no doubt that it’s one that will also be filled with loving and happy memories of the past. These are the moments that got you to this place after all so reflect on your happiest times and incorporate them into your vows.
3. Include your Audience
Of course the vows are going to be most personal to you and your fiancé but include the audience too. Talk about how excited you are to become a part of her family or about how much you love sharing Sunday dinners with his family. Your guests want to enjoy the vows too, not wonder what you’re talking about.
4. Use a Poem, but Make it Personal
There’s no problem with borrowing from a poem, song, or quote but make it personal by selecting one that has special meaning to the two of you.
5. Vow to Love them Forever
This may seem obvious since you’re getting married but really pour your heart out and tell your fiancé how much you love them and why.
6. Talk about the Future
Just as you reflected on all the past happy times, tell your fiancé how excited you are about all the times to come and all that you hope to accomplish as a married couple.
7. Vow to Make them Happy
Getting married is all about sharing your life with someone you love so that you can be happy together. Promise to make them happy and to have a happy life together.
8. Make a Vow to Your Commitment
There’s no doubt that it seems in today’s day and age, ‘till death do us part,’ seems like a lost concept but it’s important that you include your own version of this into your vows. You’re making a big commitment and it’s important that you actually state that commitment to your fiancé.
9. Let your Officiate Proof your Vows
You may not like the idea of other people hearing your vows before your fiancé does but even if your officiate knows you’re writing your own vows, you should allow them to look over them to make sure that there is no inappropriate wording or anything that would offend the church, other place of ceremony, or go against any other rules.
10. Make a Cheat Sheet
Give your maid-of-honor or best man a cheat sheet of your vows. It’s understandable that you might be nervous and forget the wording of your vows. There’s no problem with turning to get your vows so that you can make sure you do it right!
